We Had Triplets, and Now We Are Thinking of Giving One Up for Adoption
When we first found out we were expecting, we were overjoyed. But that joy quickly turned into disbelief and then anxiety when the doctor told us we were having triplets. Three babies. At once. It was overwhelming—from the financial implications to the emotional toll and the very real physical exhaustion that was about to hit us like a wave. Still, we braced ourselves for the challenge, determined to love and care for all three.
Now that the babies are here, it’s been… harder than we could have imagined. There’s constant crying, barely any sleep, mounting expenses, and the crushing guilt of not being able to give each child the individual attention they deserve. It’s not just about diapers and formula—it’s about energy, time, and emotional bandwidth. We’re only human. And we’re tired.
That’s when a thought crept in, one that we didn’t dare speak aloud at first: What if we gave one up for adoption?
It sounds horrible to say. It feels like betrayal. These are our children—each one perfect, each one innocent. We love them all deeply. But as the weeks turned into months, the reality didn’t soften. It hardened. We’re falling behind on bills, we’re arguing more, and we’re not the parents we dreamed of being. We’re not okay, and that’s a terrifying admission.
The thought of adoption is not about choosing a favorite or discarding a child. It’s about giving at least one of them a better chance. A chance at being in a family where they can thrive, where they won’t be just another mouth to feed or one more cry we can’t soothe. We’ve done our research, and we know there are amazing families out there—people who would cherish the opportunity to raise a child.
We’ve spoken with a counselor, and the advice was clear: don’t rush. Take time. Explore every option. Think beyond the immediate pain and exhaustion. Still, the idea lingers. If we’re being honest, we’re afraid that keeping all three might eventually break us—not just financially, but emotionally. What if we can’t be the loving, present parents they deserve?
We’re trying to make peace with the fact that adoption doesn’t have to mean abandonment. It could mean giving one of our children the gift of a better life. But how do you make that choice? How do you look into three sets of eyes and choose? That’s the part that keeps us up at night more than the crying.
We haven’t made a decision yet. We’re seeking support, talking to professionals, and leaning on our faith and family. This is the hardest season of our lives, but we know we must do what’s best for all our children—even if that means considering the most painful option.
All we ask is for understanding, not judgment. And maybe, if you’re reading this, a prayer for strength.
