The Bible Says the Age Difference Between Couples Is a Sin… Or Does It?
Many people have heard bold claims like “The Bible says the age difference between couples is a sin,” but is that really true? The short answer: no, the Bible does not directly say that having an age gap in a romantic relationship is a sin. In fact, Scripture never sets a specific rule about age differences between consenting adults in a relationship. Let’s explore what the Bible does say, and why this idea keeps circulating.
First, it’s important to understand that biblical marriages often involved significant age differences—especially in ancient times. Cultural norms back then were very different from today. For example, men typically married later in life after establishing themselves, while women often married in their teens. These relationships were common and not condemned in Scripture.
One well-known biblical couple is Boaz and Ruth. While the Bible doesn’t give their exact ages, it strongly suggests Boaz was older. In Ruth 3:10, Boaz says to Ruth, “You have shown more kindness now than before, because you have not run after the younger men.” That implies a notable age gap—and yet their relationship is honored and celebrated. In fact, Ruth and Boaz are in the lineage of King David and Jesus himself.
Another example is Abraham and Sarah, who were close in age (both elderly when Isaac was born), but the Bible doesn’t use age difference as a moral guideline—only faithfulness and obedience.
So where does this claim about age difference being sinful come from? Usually, it’s not from Scripture at all—it’s from societal norms, personal opinions, or misunderstandings of biblical teaching. The Bible is very clear about many things: honesty, love, sexual purity, and commitment. But it is silent on condemning age gaps, as long as the relationship is loving, respectful, and within God’s boundaries.
That being said, wisdom and discernment are important. Age differences can create challenges—differences in life stage, maturity, goals, or energy levels. But these aren’t sinful issues; they’re relational ones that couples should discuss and consider carefully. What the Bible does emphasize is mutual respect (Ephesians 5:21), love (1 Corinthians 13), and treating others with honor.
However, the Bible strongly condemns exploitation, abuse, and relationships that violate the law or conscience. If one person in a relationship is underage or being taken advantage of emotionally, spiritually, or physically, then it’s no longer about age—it’s about sin, power, and brokenness.
In conclusion, the Bible does not say an age difference between couples is a sin. What matters most in God’s eyes is the heart of the relationship. Is it built on love, respect, honesty, and commitment? Then age is just a number. So rather than focusing on years apart, couples should focus on shared values, emotional maturity, and honoring God in all they do.
And that’s a truth you can find in Scripture.
